God has us in his care. While it is fine and normal to be totally shocked by calamity, cancer, and the carelessness of others, God is living in us and isn't surprised by anything at all. Free will doesn't exist. The unredeemed are controlled by the sin nature, and the saved are controlled by God himself.
Physical death probably doesn't change this, but it does change how the nature in which we perceive God's love for us. Little do many Christians know that we are already seated in the heavenlies. (Yes, spellchecker, "Heavenlies".
And in the end, since we have done nothing to get God to care for us as he does, there isn't anything we can do the get him to keep caring. He has said that He would. So, the totally shocking moments in life aren't from God, but are there so that life can be lived and see how God is an active member of our lives. And no, He isn't shocked. Not one bit. It is His desire that we live as if we are really cared for.